Time keeps on slipping away from me. It seems like my children were in elementary school less than two years ago. Not the case. This week we celebrated birthday’s for both of my boys who were born 2 years and 5 days apart. This week they are now 18 and 20!
I can’t believe the time has moved by so quickly. It’s been a whirlwind since they got their permits. They are forever with friends, figuring life out, who they are, and who they want to become. I want that for them, I do, but I miss them being around all the time. It does make family time more special though.
Don’t get me wrong, these are the days I looked forward to forever as a young parent. “When will I ever be able to have time to have a thought of my own without the interruption of unnecessary sounds and noises (ah, teen-aged boys, how they love to make sounds like dying seals, just to hear themselves?) Lately, I find that I hold a full conversation with my youngest while on a car ride before I realize that he has his head phones in. (DAMN! What a meaningful conversation spoken on deaf ears.)
I have to hope that I have given them the best of guidance I can give, the best advice, the best word-beating a mother can give, and the knowledge of how to think for themselves in tough situations. I hope and I pray and I hope some more. With every month that slips by they seem further away. A night at a friends turns into days. Then all the friends migrate here for a night and they are off to another friend’s house.
They have both graduated and will be moving on soon. I know the tears will flow freely on that day. There will be tears of joy for them as they venture into the world to give the gift of themselves to it but I will also cry a few tears of sadness because I will miss the interactions and battles of whit.
I remember when they were young teens and texting and Facebook were new to us. I posted something to my son’s page that said that I loved him. Someone said,”isn’t he right down the hall?” He was. I didn’t neglect that fact nor did I not profess that I loved them to their faces. This was merely a way of letting the world know. I have always told my kids how much I love them.
One thing I started a long time ago and try to remember each night, especially with as far away as they already seem, is that I send them, (and my husband) a text every night before I fall asleep telling them they are loved. As I did this tonight I thought, “this is something that can never change.” One day they will have families of their own and we will not see each other every day, possibly not for weeks, even months on end but that text will remain and stand as a reminder that they will always be in my heart and in my thoughts and they will always be loved.
Is there something you do daily to let someone know they are special to you?
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