Now That You’re Gone

Now That You’re Gone

How can I hold someone
Who isn’t even there?
Who do I turn to,
When the one I run to is gone?

How can I sleep when I’ve run out of dreams?
How do I wish upon a star,
When I’ve already wished for,
All I’ve ever wanted?

My dreams seem lost
And my life has no direction.
I’ve given all I can
And my heart is just an empty space.

Your words of wisdom,

Will never be heard again.

Your love will be missed forever.

Your smile can never be replaced.

Cancer has stolen you away

And left behind my shattered heart.

What I wouldn’t have given for a cure

To have just one more day with you.

How can I hold someone
Who isn’t even there?
Who do I turn to,
When the one I run to is gone?

Meet The Author

Secrets to a lasting marriageExcuse me, but, have we met?  I wanted to take some time today to tell you a little about me for those of you who don’t know me or for those I’ve lost touch with…
Allow me to introduce myself.  My name is Missy Bell.  I very happily married and have been for more than 22 years.  I have two amazing young men who keep me laughing, busy, and remind me daily of the things I’ve taught them, in doing so they keep me on track.  
I have been a writer since I was 15.   I have been on a self-improvement journey for most of my adult life and I know this will continue to be a life-long journey.  My main purpose in life is to help others with what I have learned or am in the process of learning,  by sharing it through my writing.  If any of my pieces have helped you, I’d like to hear from you.

You can expect many things from this blog, ‘The Peace And Happiness Project.”   Within it you will find ways to reduce your stress, increase your happiness, tips on relationships of all kinds, how to get by on a daily basis in this crazy world, reduce your fear, have more time in your life, information on interesting places that I have been to or would like to visit, poetry I’ve written, my personal inspirational writings, and so much more.  Each post is designed to make you think, to move you closer to who you want to be in this life or reconnect you with who you once were.  They are all geared toward improving your life.

I hope by reviewing the category section that you will find something that will resonate with you and share it so others can enjoy the content as well.

This is not my only blog site.  You can also see my writing style at http://www.WhereTheGhostsLive.WordPress.com.  I have witnessed paranormal activity since the age of 14 and I have always been fascinated by the subject.  I am still experiencing  a great amount in my current home.   At the site above you will find histories of haunted locations and videos of evidence captured by professional investigators, information on different investigative techniques, my personal experiences while touring haunted locations, and my discoveries through a life-changing Tarot reading.   You will find places you can tour and even some Halloween type Theme Parks.  If you delve deeply enough, you may find that YES, that DOES look like a GHOST in the mirror of that photo I took.

Don’t forget to follow both blogs.  They will be updated often.

I would love it if you would head on over and like either of my Facebook pages, Words That Touch Your Heart or Where The Ghosts Live – The Haunted United States.  You can do so by visiting either blog and checking out the sidebar.

I recently published my first book, “Heart Versus Mind: Words That Touch Your Heart,” a book of original poetry that was written over my lifetime.  It can be found here: Order Heart Versus Mind: Words That Touch Your Heart by clicking here.

In addition to all of this that keeps me very busy, I have my own mobile DJ/MC business in the Worcester County area.  My website is http://www.DJMissy.com.

I am always looking for freelance writing jobs as I prepare my second and third books for publication and, I hope to take a course in paranormal research in the winter or spring of 2014.

My physical interests include Muay Thai Kickboxing (I am currently a purple belt), hiking trails with my husband, challenging myself to 5Ks and Spartan Races and an occasional trip to my long time former place of employment, the roller skating rink.

What of the above resonates with you?  Let me know in the comment section.  (If you are a blogger, please leave your site below your signature in the comment section so I can head on over and like your site as well.)

Best wishes,

Missy Bell

Understanding the Damage That Jumping To Conclusions Can Cause

Do you jump to conclusions?  Do you feel the need to know in advance how things will turn out?  Do you end people’s sentences for them?  How are these scenarios a detriment to you and your relationships?

I have jumped to conclusions so many times in my home life.  I have been married for 22 years and have two boys who are still living at home.   Being the only girl in the house and having lived with these men for 18-22 years, I feel that I know them very well.  The truth of it is, I don’t.

As much as people share, they keep much more of themselves hidden.  We are all on a path of self discovery and we change quickly; we adapt; move ahead but sometimes fall behind.  Often times, we don’t even  know ourselves as well as we should.  So how can I expect to know them, their thoughts, what they are doing when they are away from home, and so on?  I can’t.  I can only go off of the things I see or what they tell me.

My youngest son just got out of a relationship.  He explained what the reasoning was.  Even though he told me, I chose not to believe that reason and jumped to conclusions as to the real reason it was ended.  I didn’t voice it thankfully.  I know how that would have ended.  The truth was that it was not my business.  What he told me is what he wanted me to believe, whether it was true or not.  To guess an alternate ending would have been anything but unfair to him and the girl.  It really wasn’t my business.

I know I’m not the only one who has done this.  Perhaps you have as well and ended up voicing what you imagined to be true.  Just know, that in doing so, you set yourself up for an argument with the person you are assuming about.  I don’t know of anyone who would like to have someone voice their opinion of what they thought was going on in their life or their thoughts.  I know I don’t.

As I’m writing this, I’m sitting in a McDonalds where I witnessed this very thing happen.  A man approached another gentleman who was dressed in business attire and headed out the door.  The first man apologized to the second for spilling his drink on the table.  The second man smiled politely, giggled and said, “That’s ok.  It’s alright.  I don’t work here,” and left the building.  Now, I’m not going to jump to conclusions about how the man felt who spilled his drink but I know how I would feel hearing several people who overheard, chucking quietly at the assumption.

We don’t only jump to conclusions about what people think and feel.  We do it about our future, the future of others, who people are, what they have gone through in their past, the type of person they are and what people need to improve their lives.

In business think we know what a customer is trying to say and shut them down before they finish explaining their situation or without completely listening to what they have to say.

Some of us try to get inside the mind of the person they are in a relationship with and guess their true emotions and intentions.

All of this assuming has the potential to lead to rumors, arguments, break ups, divorce, getting fired, unnecessary depression and so much more.

Jumping to conclusionsSo how do we avoid it?   The first step is to catch yourself doing it.  Think before you speak and ask yourself a few questions such as,

  • “Do the facts that I know support this?”
  • “Are there questions I should be asking to clarify the situation before I project my thoughts onto the other person?”
  • “Is this something that is even my business?”
  • “Does the outcome affect me?”
  • “How would I feel if someone assumed this of me?”
  • My favorite question to clarify is asked of the other person, “What do you mean by that?”

When it comes to you, it is more than fair to ask the other person, “I feel that you may have just assumed that.  What facts are you basing what you just said on?”  I know my youngest has said that to me.  I think the first time I was really taken aback by it but it stopped me in my tracks and made me really think.  I then had a rational conversation with him.  The more he has asked and pointed out that I do it, the less times I have found myself doing it and I catch myself before voicing it most times now and I feel better for it.

When we eliminate assumptions and stop jumping to conclusions, life seems to run more smoothly as we lessen the number of arguments, feel better about other people and ourselves, increase the effectiveness of how we run our business or our job and we free ourselves up for more productive, higher thinking.

Remember, we cannot predict the future either.  If you are projecting a negative outcome on a situation, you have a higher chance of being right.  Based on the Law of Attraction, “What we think about comes about.”  Be careful what you are thinking.

If this, or any of my other posts contained on this blog that are geared to inspire you, decrease your fear and stress levels and increase your peace and happiness, have helped you, please support my efforts by sharing this on Facebook, Twitter, Linked In or any other the other social medias listed below.

Thank you for your support,

Missy Bell

That’s Inspiring

I have asked this question before through Facebook and seem to get the same answers from a high number of people. They say that their children inspire them.  A friend of mine posed the same question to her friends and received a slightly different set of comments but it brought me back to the answer I received on mine.

I think it’s fantastic that your children inspire you.  Our children keep us young at heart and motivated to stay good people, amongst other things.  But it is important to think about what else inspires you.  What happens when your children are grown and have lives of their own?  You will need to be sure that you have many sources of inspiration to keep you going.  You should be sure that you are close to the top of that list.

When you draw from several sources, your options are wide open.  After giving it thought I came up with my own short list.  It is incomplete at the moment because I know I need to give it further thought.

InspirationI am inspired by challenges in my life that force me to look inside for strength.  I seem to thrive on the personal challenges that I take on, the challenges where I force myself to step outside the box and say, “I’m not really sure that I can do this,” then I do it. I’ve learned to stop looking for outside motivation as often, I turn within.  I find ways to pull my own energy into higher thought and search my spirituality for inspiration and encouragement.  When I need it externally, I read different authors such as, Napoleon Hill, Bob Proctor, Don Miguel Ruiz, Anthony, etc.  I talk with my family, they know me well enough to give me strength in just the right areas when I need it.  I am inspired by dreams of my future, friends, reminding myself of what I’m grateful for, other people’s accomplishments, music, love, hope and happiness. 

I can’t stress enough how important it is to have more than one source of inspiration and to know what know what they are.  It will help you get out of situations when you find you’re having a bad day.  Make your list, include as much as possible.  You can write it or create a collage.  Keep your list with you.  Draw from it on your down days or when you need a pick-me up.  Reading or looking at it will trigger happier thoughts to help you move forward.

If you can create your own inspiration, you have truly won.  Be sure to find ways to be your own hero and inspiration.  There is nothing truly like it.

Thank you for stopping by.  Please check out the list of other inspirational posts in the side bar.

Missy Bell

Where The Ghosts Live

Some of you may know that I joined a few challenges this month.  The first one was, “The Ultimate Blog Challenge.”  The second is “The Article Writing Challenge.”  Both of these I have committed to writing a blog post daily for each of the 31 days.  After today, I have 1 week left.  I have been out straight because, not only have I taken on the two challenges, but I am doing it with two blogs.

I decided to start a second blog at the end of last month.  I have always had a fascination with the paranormal, starting at age 14 when my best friend and I both saw an apparition at the same time.  It left me very curious about the afterlife and changed how I saw death in a way.  After that incident, my home became “active.”  I saw things out of the corner of my eye, electronic items would turn on and off on their own, things I just couldn’t explain.  This carried over into the new homes I moved into.  Location after location seemed to have some sort of paranormal activity from time to time.

I watched horror movies, some of them scared me out of my whits.  But I never really was too freaked out by what was going on around me because I never had a negative experience.

Where the ghosts live

After starting this new blog, Where The Ghosts Live – The Haunted United States, things got interesting.  It was an immediate hit.  The other day, one of my posts produced a day of just under 800 views.  I was very excited!  I started meeting new people with the same interest, paranormal investigators and haunted home owners.  A week ago Friday, during the Blood Moon/Eclipse, I visited my first Haunted Mansion for a psychic fair.  I had never had a tarot card reading and didn’t plan on it that night.  It just happened by chance.  It was amazing.  I was told what my life’s purpose is and why I have the feelings I have and how it makes me who I am.  I also learned the cause behind the paranormal activity that has been going on in my life since I was 14.

I’d like to invite you to take a look as I share in detail, the results of my reading.  If you enjoy the posts, stay a while and check out the blog or even like it for updates.  I have been dabbling in a few areas this month but will most likely settle into doing mostly article style histories about haunted locations with short clips of evidence reported from that location.  I hope you enjoy.

Here are the two links for my tarot reading and I’ll include the most popular post’s link about my experience during the haunted mansion tour and what looks to me like a ghost in the mirror of the photo I took on my phone during the tour:

  1. My First Tarot Reading – Part 1 – My Purpose In Life
  2. My First Tarot Reading – Part 2 – Reasons Behind My Own Paranormal Activity
  3. My Experiences – S. K. Pierce Haunted Victorian Mansion – Part 5

Thank you for stopping by.  I greatly appreciate it!

Missy Bell

Destined For Greatness – A Poem for the Special Ed Teacher

DESTINED FOR GREATNESSDestined for Greatness

 

 

I am destined for greatness

This much I know

Exactly how I’ll get there

Only time will show

 

I believe I owe you thanks

For whom I will one day be

Because you have shown

So much faith in me

 

You have taught me lessons

Both big and small

I will do my best

To remember them all

 

So many days I struggled

To pay attention to what you say

You showed me patience and love

And forgave me those days

 

You have stood by me

Trying to find what works best

I’m sure all that you’ve learned

Has been put to the test

 

I truly feel

That you believe in me

That’s why am destined for greatness

You will someday see

Does A Full Moon and Lunar Eclipse Affect You

Full MoonTonight, (October 18, 2013) is a full moon with an eclipse.  Should you expect anything in particular?  What are some of the studies saying about the full moon and how it affects us emotionally and physically?  Does it affect our relationships?  Have you ever noticed a difference in yourself or others during a full moon?

The most common effects of a full moon that are mentioned online are; mood, fertility, reproductive behavior, birth rate, blood loss, human behavior, law and order, politics and sleep quality.  But a great number of studies are said to be inconclusive as to what the direct effects are.

According to many sources, the words, “lunatic” and “lunacy” derive from the Latin word, “Luna,” meaning moon.  Their earliest uses date back to the 1500’s.

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “It must be a full moon,” when people start doing things out of the ordinary or out of character.

During the time of the full moon you many notice an increased staff of police on patrol as well as in the medical fields.

Wiki suggests that studies are inconclusive that a full moon has the ability to affect us much other than a slight lack in sleep.  The webpage sites, “People notice if something dramatic happens during a full moon, but do not notice when nothing dramatic happens; furthermore, dramatic occurrences that do not occur during full moons are typically not counted as evidence against the belief.  Believers are further bolstered in their belief through communal reinforcement: The more people talk about the effect, the more people notice spurious relationships.”

I can tell you, from my experience that I believe if I had kept proper notes that I would have been able to support the fact that indeed, the full moon has an affect over a great number of people but maybe not all.  I have worked in the field of customer service for most of my life and observed an increase in irritability, irrational thought processes and behaviors and a higher than normal increase in rudeness and abruptness.  Could this be linked to the decrease in sleep that studies have concluded to be a cause of the full moon?

I recall knowing with certainty when it was a full moon based on the behaviors of alarm signal activity and the increase in customer behavior when I worked as a dispatcher for a commercial alarm company.  There was a higher number of false alarms, panic and escalated customer service complaints.

My friend Nicole is a dog trainer and she states that the puppies in class seem to let her know it’s a full moon by acting with a sense of restlessness and crazy behavior.

In addition to this evening being a full moon, there will also be a Penumbral  Eclipse (meaning the Earth will move between the sun and the moon causing a partial dimness of the moon) that can be seen in several countries, including the U. S.  It will not be very visible except around 7:50pm EDT where you may see a shadowy smudge.

If you believe in astrology, which I do, it will interest you to know that an eclipse of a full moon generally indicates endings or culmination points.

Susan Miller from Astrology Zone has this to say, “Take any message you hear at the time of an eclipse seriously. There usually is no way to get a situation reversed. If someone brings news you don’t like on an eclipse realize that there is little chance you can get it reversed, at least not for four months, if ever. See the news as essentially a non-negotiable decision and try to move on.  Events that follow an eclipse have more weight than events brought on by a normal new or full moon. In fact, an eclipse is like a turbo-new or full moon packs much more energy and punch. An eclipse may even bring on an event that seems ‘fated’.  Eclipses always bring unexpected changes of direction if you have a planet that will be touched.”

What have been your experiences and what is your personal opinion on this subject?  Let me know your thoughts below…

Check out other categories on this site for more thought provoking, inspirational and self-help posts.  You can also find my other blog site of all things paranormal at: http://www.WhereTheGhostsLive.WordPress.com.

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My Baby Girl

I wrote this poem about my niece, Stephanie when she was a baby.  I wrote it through the eyes of her parents.  This is one of the poems I’ve had published.  I hope you like it.

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MY BABY GIRL

A child so young in age

But in wisdom is growing fast.

I wish I could stop the hands of time

And keep her within my grasp.

There’s so much I’d like to teach her.

I’m sure I’ll have the time.

Down the road I’ll be proud to say,

“That little girl is mine.”

For now I watch her closely

As she slowly learns to walk.

It seems I know what she’s thinking

And yet she can barely talk.

I’ll try to teach her the best I can

To learn what’s right and wrong.

In years to come I truly hope

Her values will be strong.

In a few years she won’t be so young.

With her smile she’ll rule the world.

The men will think she’s a beauty

But she’ll still be my baby girl.

StephShe is grown now and her smile does rule the world and she did grow into a beauty.  She is also a wonderful young woman.  She is a nurse in the Neonatal Unit.  She is making a huge difference in the lives of those babies and their families.  I am so very proud of the woman she has become and I knew then that I would be.

If you enjoy this poem, I have published a book of my poetry called, “Heart Versus Mind: Words That Touch Your Heart,” that can be found on Amazon.com or Lulu.com.

Feel free to head on over to my other blog, Where The Ghosts Live ~ Missy Bell.  As always, thank you for stopping by.  Please leave a comment below…

Taking Things for Granted

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My mother loves to tell the story of when I was very young, most likely around 6, when we were in the car one October day and I said to her, in all my innocence, “Someone should tell God that he does a really nice job painting the leaves.”

I’m not sure what the cause was to heighten my awareness this year but I am grateful.  Perhaps it’s because I have been out in nature more or that I’ve been taking so many pictures.  Maybe It’s a part of my recent awareness in the here and now.

I started noticing the changes early on.  It started out as a few leaves and became gradual as the more healthy trees seem to stay green longer.  The colors vary and each tree is unique and magnificent in its own way.  It reminds me of us. How we go through phases in our lives where we feel like we are dying inside but everyone else still seems to see our beauty.  It’s still there.  The leaves may completely fall and the trees may seem bare, but it is not long before the flakes of winter arrive here in New England and the trees show their beauty as they stand tall, holding snow on each branch as if to say, “I caught this for your to admire.”  A sign of strength.  The spring comes and life returns as with us, the cycle of the things we go through in our lives.

Take time to notice the beauty in, not only your surroundings, but in others in your life as well.  Don’t take the beauty of others for granted, just because you see them all the time.

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Our Second Miracle Child – Austin Patrick

We had a beautiful 15 month old toddler, Daniel, the love of our lives.  We lived in Albuquerque, New Mexico at the time we got the news.  We were shocked to learn that I was pregnant – again.  Just weeks prior we were devastated by a miscarriage.  I was about 2 months along when it happened.  We had our hopes so high for a second child.  I won’t dwell on the negative but I must mention it because I feel it is one of the things that makes Austin a miracle baby.  If I hadn’t lost the second baby, Austin wouldn’t have been conceived and wouldn’t be with us today.

Shortly after we found out I was pregnant we moved into a three bedroom house on the military base and started to fill the extra room with new baby items.  We only lived there for about 4 months before Mike was discharged from the military and we made the move back to New England.  I was so grateful to be out of that house.  There were too many windows and I was so afraid that someone was going to break in.  I was overprotective of this pregnancy, which made me very paranoid.

When we picked Daniel’s name, we couldn’t come to a conclusion with the names we had chosen so we randomly opened the bible and chose the first name we saw.  That’s how we chose his middle name as well.  It was different with the second child.  I was a second child and was named after a soap star.  Why not, I thought.  I never missed an episode of Days of Our Lives at the time, in fact, I watched it more than once some days.  I thought the character, Austin, played by Patrick Muldoon was very handsome.  The combination just worked well, Austin Patrick.  And that’s when the trend was started.  My nephew, who was born just months after Daniel was the second child in his family.  My brother and his wife named him Dallas.  My cousin named her second child, Sydney.  It became a joke that if any of my other cousins had a second child, it should be named after a city.  But I digress.

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Austin was born weighing in at 9 pounds even and 21 inches, even.  He was a perfectionist, day one.  I remember when he was a toddler, if he was going to eat, he had to have something in each hand or he would cry.  For instance, if we were going to give him a donut, we would have to give him two mini donuts.  If we gave him two halves of a larger donut, one for each hand, he would cry because it was broken. His birth went as planned and the only traumatic part was a bit of postpartum with spinal headaches while trying to care for a newborn and an active 2-year-old.  The doctor who was going to bring him into the world insisted we have a C-section because his brother was 10 pounds 4 ounces and chances are he would be just as big.  Daniel was too big to be delivered naturally and was 2 weeks late. They didn’t want to risk similar complications with Austin.  The first date the doctor chose was Daniel’s birthday so we told him we wanted to reschedule.  He chose a date 2 days later but then backed out because he literally had forgotten that he had a golf game scheduled that day.  This is why Austin’s birthday is 5 days later than his brother’s.

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Having a brother who is only two years older, it’s almost another miracle that he is still with us.  He had a hard ball throw at him that missed his head by centimeters and he was kicked in the head with his brother’s dress boots when he threatened to take Daniel’s toy when he was learning to crawl.

This past November, Austin and his best friend, Jory went to spend some time with a girl Austin didn’t know.  They were driving around with her, her friend and a mutual friend of all of them.  They wanted to just drive randomly and explore but the GPS they had wasn’t working.  They decided to go back to their friend’s house to get Jory’s GPS from his car.  Their friend decided to stay home.  He didn’t feel comfortable about the situation.  Austin had been in the middle seat when it was the 5 of them but moved to the passenger back seat when their friend stayed home.  It wasn’t too much later that the car they were in hit a tree head on.  If Austin had been in the middle seat he might not be here today.  The lap belt would not have protected him as well as the shoulder strap and the way they impacted, the boys heads would have collided.  All that being said, he is lucky to have only gotten a compound fracture.  That in and of itself could have been more tragic if Jory, who had a concussion, hadn’t been conscious enough to call 9-1-1.

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I remember one day we were relaying this story to his English teacher when he returned to school in a wheelchair.  There were several girls standing around listening.  Austin’s friends.  My comment was, “He came into this world as a miracle and he will stay in this world by a miracle.”  And all the girls cried.

Let me leave you with a happy ending.  Austin is running now.  He has very few limitations.  He is meant to do something great with his life and we have no doubt that he will.  He is a brilliant young man with a great talent and love of music.  He is a people person, very comedic with the presence of a stand up comedian,  He has a way of calming people and helping others stay logical.  He brings me great peace when I throw myself off track and shares a great deal of my life philosophies and keeps me open minded.  I love him for all he is.

My miracle children.  I am grateful for both of them.

To read about my first son, Daniel and why we say he is a miracle child as well, check out the post, Our First Miracle Child – Daniel Jacob.

Also check the side bar for inspirational posts as well as tips on how to reduce stress and increase peace and happiness in your life.  My other blog, Where The Ghosts Live – The Haunted United States, discusses paranormal activity near and far, throughout the United States.  Enjoy!

Missy Bell