Have you ever noticed that everyone has their own opinion? When it differs from your own, do you tend to get offended by that? Do you respond or let it go? Have you ever told someone their opinion was wrong? Why?
I received a comment on my other blog, Where The Ghosts Live – The Haunted United States, that made me feel like my beliefs were being attacked. I felt the need to defend myself and I think the way I did so was very non-offensive but I still felt the need. Several people pointed out that this was not necessary; I wrote about my beliefs and should not need to defend them. None the less, I defended my position. It also happened earlier in the week in another situation where I made a judgement call and someone disapproved and voiced it in a rude and condescending manner.
When I encounter this type of behavior from others I’m not sure what to do with it. I don’t treat people in this fashion or act this way so it really throws me for a loop. I actually get stuck. I go into a phase for 10 minutes, or even a few hours where I dwell on it, trying to understand and I get stuck. Then I either respond or dismiss it but it seems during that in between time, I’m not able to produce meaningful content and on occasion don’t even want to be around others. I know I need to grow a thicker skin. This is going to happen often in life, I am just not used to it in my life nor do I feel like I should need to be.
As I was responding to one of these several comments about not needing to defend myself, I came to the easy realization that I should be grateful for differences of opinions. One person could never experience everything there is to experience during our short lifetime. That is why I am grateful that we all have so many different experiences and take away from them so many different truths and opinions.
We live in a world that is so much different in this day and age then when our grandparents and great grandparents lived it. They relied on the stories of others by word of mouth or by personal written mail in order to visit another country or location in their mind’s eye. Even then, they only got to hear one or two stories of the area the people they communicated with got to see. In today’s world, there are limitless possibilities of what we can experience, learn about and believe simply by reading a page or two on the internet about what someone else wrote or pictures they took. The world is ours to live and experience from exactly where we are in any given moment. Due to the amount of information out there, this leaves us with the ability to form opinions about almost anything. We all seem to know a little about a lot and a lot about a little but all in different areas.
This brings me to the appreciation of the opinions of others. I think what I think because of the experiences I’ve been through in my life. It is the same for every person. We all have been raised differently and have seen different things in our lives. Of course our opinions will be different. It is important to not force yours on anyone else but at the same time to recognize that every person has the right to think what they think. They have the right to walk away or leave a page or disagree.
When you feel attacked, or called out for what you believe because someone sees things differently, how do you respond? What are some ways you have been attacked and what for? Do you wish you would have responded differently? Have you ever had someone come back at you for being too judgmental of their opinion? Feel free to open up here. As you can see from my posts, I’m an open book.
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