It should never be our goal in life to please everyone nor should we ever expect everyone to like us.
There will always be people who do not agree with our views or what we say, do or act around them, just as we too come across people we don’t like. Everyone acts differently around different people. Some people bring out the best in us and we can relate to them easily. Some have an easy-going personality and aura, others do not. Some people will make us uncomfortable or may offend us (sometimes unintentionally and sometimes intentionally.) There are others who engage in lifestyles that we just don’t agree with and that may cause us to feel uneasy. For whatever reason, we were not all meant to get along.
It is usually the people we don’t get along with who don’t like us. There are others who will not like you and you have no idea why because you enjoy them. If the friendship, or even business relationship is important to you, it never hurts to ask if there is a reason for (their actions that make you think they don’t like you or words that they say that are indicators.) It’s then on them to be honest or glaze over the subject. The way they are acting may just be a part of their personality and you were just taking it personal or they may reveal a true issue, in which case, you have a starting point to work with. This should only be done with people you truly care about or enjoy being around.
For those who are just acquaintances who you don’t particularly plan on having in your life, it’s not important that they like you, at least, it shouldn’t be. There’s no need to waste your energy worrying about it. I’ve watched and heard people, and even been guilty of, wasting hours of time that could have been spent being productive, happy and positive instead, being disappointed and racking my brain trying to figure what I may have done wrong for them to dislike. Let it go. As long as you are being your authentic self, it doesn’t matter. You shouldn’t try to change who you are just to please someone else.
One of my favorite says is from Eleanor Roosevelt, “What other people think of me is none of my business.” Let them think what they want. You, go on living as you normally would. One thing I like to point out often is that we are with ourselves 24/7. We are the only ones who are. The most important person we should care about liking us, is ourselves.
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7 thoughts on “What Do You Mean, You Don’t Like Me?”
Hello Missy Bell, thank you for sharing a very important post and yes it doesn’t matter whether others do not approve or like us, what counts is that we like and love ourselves because it can take a lifetime to release this control that others have supposedly placed on us, from our own views. When we are clear and focused what others think does not matter, because we are living in line with our truth and that is the most important thing of all. Love reading your blog xx Have a blessed day
Thank you again Ana! I am so glad you like this blog. I appreciate you stopping by again today. I also like what you have taken away from the post. Thank you for sharing that.
Hi Lissy – Packed with wisdom. very relevant reading for people of today. Tx for sharing.
Thank you Nischal. I appreciate that. Thank you for stopping by and for commenting.
Very true not everyone will like us or us them. Being good with that is what we must learn! Life lesson for sure. Thanks for sharing it! Best Regards, Wendy AWC http://wendybottrell.com
Thank you Wendy for weighing in on this. I do struggle with this on occasion as I am a people-pleaser type. I need to remind myself that I am not responsible for what other people think. Thank you for stopping by.
Missy. I so agree. We probably spend way too much time worrying about what others think of us that they actually do.