As a part of my reducing stress segment on this blog page, I’d like to take a few short minutes to talk about something important in my life right now. I hope that by the time you have finished reading it, you will be able to see things in a different light and perhaps it will help you reduce a bit of stress in your own life.
My latest post on FaceBook, “Life is too short to live by other people’s rules” has prompted me to write this. We do. We live by other people’s rules and we forget to listen to ourselves. Some rules, of course are naturally meant to be followed in order to keep society from falling apart. There are laws and basic guidelines that everyone should follow, one example being, the Golden Rule. But we really should be listening to is ourselves. We all lead different lives, even within a family unit. We all experience events in our own unique way, with our own set of feelings toward it. Therefore, it would only make sense that the rules that we set for ourselves must match who we are, not who someone else is. It is what makes us unique.
Take some time to listen to yourself. Find out who you are, where you want to go with your future, what you want from today, next week, next month and next year and make rules, set guidelines, create goals that are unique to you. Break them down step by step and start where you stand, but start.
Progress will take time but you will learn to become your own person by doing this. We all want to be a part of something, a family, a group of friends, a work group and society in general but often times lose ourselves by defining who we are based on what the group is or how we want the group to see us. Break away from that definition (not necessarily the group) and define yourself as you truly want to see yourself.
I am a mother, wife, friend, daughter, sister, aunt, niece and so much more to everyone else but what is most important is who I am to me.
It is time to cast aside personal judgement and stop allowing others to judge you as well. Remember, “What other people think about you is none of your business.” Go forth… LIVE BY YOUR OWN RULES!!